One of my 8th grade students has significant difficulty regulating his emotions, more than other students at the school anyway. Thankfully, this is a student who receives special education services and who attends an alternative school, yet, his behavior even stretches our abilities to effectively work with him sometimes. This is the start of his third year at our school, so his pattern of behavior is quite well-known and predictable now. We also have been trained in complex trauma (there is lots of information here) so we are better at addressing the behavior.
This student comes to school every day and is able to start each day being appropriately social with peers and staff. During our morning meeting (where we use the Responsive Classroom model) he is an active participant and has a positive attitude. But anything unpredictable or unstructured can trigger him; he has even told staff (when he is calm) that his thoughts can intrude and trigger him. Once he is triggered, he begins his downward spiral. What he shows outwardly at first is loud sighing or groaning about the school work or the class expectations, or he might start calling himself stupid because a task is hard for him. Then he will yell at peers (even though they are using normal voice tones to ask questions and complete their work) to quiet down because he can’t concentrate, and when they respond to him, it’s to tell him to quiet down. This causes him to lash out with threats and name calling (which might then trigger trauma responses from them, and then everyone escalates). His language becomes inappropriate for school. Then he becomes extremely oppositional, refusing to leave the room to regulate, continuing to openly challenge students, roaming the hallway, calling people names. When he finally gets into a separate space long enough to work with someone to regulate, it takes quite some time for him to get to a point where he can return to class and meet expectations.
Sometimes he walks out of the school building and goes home before the end of the school day; other times he is able to make it to the end of the school day even though he didn’t complete much work in any of his classes. When he is on task and participating in class he is focused and can ignore little distractions in order to complete his work. Sometimes this focus will last all through the morning and into the afternoon; sometimes it lasts only for a few minutes of a class. Sometimes his oppositional behavior lasts through consecutive class periods; sometimes he goes through this behavior cycle within the span of one class period. This behavior in a mainstream school would end up getting him sent out of the classroom or suspended; he would also probably be referred for a risk assessment.
Staff usually intervene once he begins his loud sighing or groaning, but there are many factors throughout the day that can affect how quickly we teachers respond to this student: we may be helping other students with their school work; we may be helping other students regulate their own behavior and work through their issues; we may be introducing a lesson and giving instructions.
This is a quick fact sheet that provides good information about how to help a student like this. Here are some pointers that are included on the fact sheet:
- Model respectful, non-violent behavior and relationships.
- Provide many genuine choices to increase sense of self-efficacy and self-control.
- Be clear about expected behaviors; teach rules and expected behaviors explicitly. Remember, repetition is key. Children who have experienced complex trauma will likely take longer to generalize a skill than their peers.
- Avoid using words when a child is disregulated. Consider walking, rocking, etc. as an intervention until the student is regulated.
- Develop a system for consequences that is not punitive. Consequences should be logical and designed to teach, not punish. Avoid power struggles.
- If behavior is a consistent problem, consider having a functional behavior assessment conducted to determine triggers and develop a behavior intervention plan.
There is a lot of information here about this type of behavior and how to respond; it’s not information that most teachers readily have because it’s not something that they usually need. I am a special education teacher working in an alternative school, so this information has helped me do my job better. I share it because it is useful to know, and it can help all teachers decode the meaning behind some outrageous behaviors they see (no matter how rare they might be in a mainstream setting).